I just got back from a conference on Women’s Empowerment in South Beach Miami. The weather was beautiful the first day but the last two days, we had torrential down pours and cloudy skies. No coming home with ‘just at the beach’ color for me.
But I didn’t even care because I was too busy basking in the glow of 900 beautiful, radiant, fully-expressed women. Women of every size and shape, color, age and socio-economic background. Women from countries where the women are treated far worse than we are in the states. Women wearing anything that they wanted regardless of the size on the tag, and I do mean anything. I have never seen so much female skin in one place, at one time before.
And every inch of it was glorious.
Why? Because the women in that skin felt glorious. And that skin glowed with a powerful sense of self-worth and self-love.
And I thought to myself, ‘So this is what that looks like’.
It was an amazing and beautiful thing to witness these women as they talked about the ways they have shaped a life of their truest desires – regardless of the circumstances they had or the way they looked.
They used a few powerful practices to shift their own realities. But most importantly, they decided they wanted certain things and they weren’t going to take no for an answer.
And, they decided they deserved these things.
Simple, yet so profound.
Because most women are taught from a very young age that we must take care of everyone else first and deny our own longings. The amazing fact is, though, that when we take care of our own desires first and stop at nothing to see them come to life, everyone around us benefits. When mama’s happy, everyone’s happy, right??
And I’m not talking about running over other people to get what you want. The other amazing thing I witnessed is how this group of women celebrated and rejoiced in the other women’s good fortune and lent a hand whenever possible to lift a sister up, all while standing in their own desires. A beautiful dance where everyone wins.
So, many times, we think that we will go for our dream job when we lose 20 lbs. Or when we get this weight off, then we’ll find the ‘right’ guy.
This weekend, I witnessed women who have said, “Screw that! I want the job and the guy now!” and they got ’em. Their size or looks had absolutely nothing to do with it.
But their attitude did.
Turns out, the only thing stopping us from having the life of our dreams, is us, and all the restrictions and ‘the way it should look’ things that we tell ourselves.
So from now on, I’m strapping on my ‘Hell, yeah!’ boots and I’m going for it.
No more playing small. No more excuses.
I’m going for that glow.